THE 5 | REASONS YOU ARE NOT HAPPY

Currently listening to David Guetta, Sia, Fetty Wap – Bang my head against the wall.

In the comment section of this post, a lot of people asked me to talk about times when I feel down. In my reality, I’m hardly ever down. Life isn’t a bed of roses but in the past two years, I’ve been walking on a journey of genuine happiness and it’s been very effective. 

I’ve decided to share how and what I did to get to this level of happiness in the best way I can explain it in a series with hope that this helps someone. In today’s post like the title implies, I’d be sharing with you reasons why you are probably not as happy as you want to be…

1. LACK OF CONTENTMENT : This is the major reason why a lot of people especially young adults aren’t happy. Your friend has a truck of makeup, at 21 your homeboy owns a limo or your girlfriend is engaged and you are just sitting in the corner with nothing happening for you and you spend everyday thinking of these things forgetting that every body on the surface of this earth is running a different race.

2. TYING YOUR HAPPINESS TO AN OBJECT / PERSON : Before 2014 I used to think my source of happiness was my boyfriend (how stupid I was ewww), whenever we had issues I’d be sad till we sorted things out and dating at a young age ofcourse I was sad a lot of days because we had issues on a regular and I’m certain this applies to a lot of young people too, it might not be a boyfriend in your case it might be food etc. The truth is food doesn’t make you happy, it’s because you’ve registered it in your head that you’re happy when you eat that’s why you feel happy when you eat. Today I’m still in a relationship but you’d hardly ever be able to tell that if we have issues, it still hurts yeah but I never build on that feeling. If you can apply that to every aspect of your life then you’d feel happy with everything you do.

3. NOT FULFILLING PURPOSE : Yes you’ve got a job or you’re at school but there is still that emptiness you feel that leaves you angry at yourself or leaves you feeling lonely, trust me I’ve been there too but since I created this blog and started exploring my creative side I barely have time to sit and be angry or think of negative things because the little spare time I have when I’m not busy with school I’m thinking of content for this blog or creating content for my job etc. 

4. ENVY : Sometimes being envious isn’t something people consciously become, most times this comes as a result of not being content with where you are, what you have and instead of genuinely being happy for your friends or people that are doing well around you and channeling energy into being a better you, you channel that energy into being angry at them for being at the level they are without knowing that “If you help others achieve their dreams, you are also achieving your dreams”_ Will Smith.

5. FINANCIAL DEBT : Another thing that arises due to lack of contentment, a lot of young people tend to start living above their budget just to keep up appearances which is very wrong because you end up in debt an that’s will definitely make you unhappy. 



Blazer : 87origins

Check yourself, see if you fall into any of the above categories and make a decision today to work on yourself. No one is perfect and so you shouldn’t ever be afraid to try and fail, the most important is to continuously keep working towards being your dream version of you. I’d be writing a post soon on ways to boost your happiness level and it will be awesome to get feedbacks about this post so I’d know if to keep up with this kind of post.

             Till next time… xoxo.

Word for the day : ‘Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy’


What do you think makes you unhappy? How have you being able to work on becoming happier? Do share your story by leaving a comment, thanks.

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42 thoughts on “THE 5 | REASONS YOU ARE NOT HAPPY

  1. So true and motivational but it’s just difficult to stay happy 24/7 but we just have to keep pushing and trying to keep negative vibes out…..

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  2. Watching funny films help when I’m down but I try to see the positive in every situation.
    I second on that 1,2 and 3. In my brain food is bae, im trying to be more content with what I have. This post is really good..

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  3. I liked reading this, if you think about it holding grudges or reservations towards people also prevents happiness, I punished myself unnecessarily for a long time with this, sometimes we just need to let things go from our hearts and we’ll find out it makes us happier and less burdened.

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  4. Wow. Its everything that I would say if I was asked to write on this. I can relate to every point. If you feel insecure about yourself, you’re going to be unhappy a lot because everything and everyone is going to get to you. Major key –> don’t tie your happiness to anyone. Happiness is a daily choice, you wake up each day and you decide to be happy or curl up in your bed and cry, like crying or worrying solves anything.

    There was a time in my life precisely 2015, I just feel that was my year of growth. Things were not going as I wanted them too and I became upset with the whole world, I was isolating myself and feeling sorry for myself, crying myself to sleep and finding it hard to carry on the next day. But after a while, I decided to not worry or stress over things anymore. Nowadays, I take life as it comes, one day at a time. Not having too much expectations from anyone, I have felt heartbreak and heartache, dissapointments and tough times. I don’t beat myself up anymore if things dont work out cause baby girl that’s life! This comment has become extra long, I’m sorry. Your pictures are stunning.

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    • Hey Daniella I absolutely loved reading your comment, totally relatable. I’m glad we are in a better phase now and cheers to waking up and choosing to be happy. Thanks for the compliment btw

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  5. I can relate to this quite well… because as of 2015- early 2016 when I was 16, I kept tying my happiness to my relationship and it was my first relationship so u can imagine. and the person was older than me, so I felt like I needed to prove to be worthy of the time given to me. trust me when I say, I spent at least seventy percent of my time just feeling I wasnt enough and that really spiraled me into depression. so I can really relate I can go On and on but lemme stop here. and please do the post on how to boost on how to boost your happiness. and the 87origins blazer is so lit!!!!!

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  6. I can relate to this quiet well… because as of 2015- early 2016 when I was 16, I kept tying my happiness to my relationship and it was my first relationship so u can imagine. and the person was older than me, so I felt like I needed to prove to be worthy of the time given to me. trust me when I say, I spent at least seventy percent of my time just feeling I wasnt enough and that really spiraled me into depression. so I can really relate I can go On and on but lemme stop here. and please do the post on how to boost on how to boost your happiness. and the 87origins blazer is so lit!!!!!

    quirksandoutfits.wordpress.com

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    • Awwwwwwn Vincent, I’m glad you’re over all that now, you’re worth every second of attention you get from anyone and never again let anyone leave you spending time trying to prove yourself.

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  7. this is a really lovely post, I’m very familiar with number two because my mother says it countless times (don’t tie your happiness to anyone). all the points lusted are very very relatable and I’m on board for more of these!

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  8. 👏 enjoyed reading dis, thank you. I also decided to be happy at all times a long tym ago but it can be hard sometyms, one thing dat makes me unhappy z when I’m broke nd i nid money to do sumfin, but den what i do z, pray about it nd hope on God to supply nd it works every time. Can’t wait to read d rest of dis series.

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